MKE Week 22 – The Incredible Tool Box

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We all have tools in our toolbox that are both effective and ineffective.
Ineffective tools for dealing with fear, guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings, and anger.

You might think, “No, I do not.”
So, ask yourself this:
Are you living the life you truly desire—the life of your dreams?
Are you moving towards realizing my goals and dreams?
Are you using fear, guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings, and anger to keep me safe in my comfy zone?
Do you avoid stepping outside of your comfort zone?
Do you still use the fight, flight, or freeze response in everyday situations?
Do you react to the conditions in your life?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you, like me, are still using ineffective tools to avoid change and stay in your comfort zone.

I have been grabbing these tools, but they always hit and miss.
Using ineffective tools will not change my life.

One of the most valuable things I received in week 22 of the MKE was tools to replace ineffective ones. I now have effective tools to use for the rest of my life.

The Effective Tool Of Fear: Perceived danger
Fear serves as the brick. Guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings, and anger are the mortar.
Fear is a gift! it has an enormous amount of energy to do what we need to do to change

The qualities of fear are: Concentration and Focus.
When we are fearful, our concentration is intense.
Fear creates intense focus. It is a state of unconscious laser focus.
Fear eliminates all distractions.
Fear allows us to instantly focus and determine what is important.
It helps us process information more quickly.

Fear Is A Gift!
To use its energy to convert thought into action without hesitation.
To direct its energy towards seeing things from a different perspective.
To use its energy for concentration and focus in order to perform our best.
To use its energy to instantly create a new awareness and to take actions to manifest that awareness.

Imagine you’re using this tool to move you from where you are to where you want to be.

If you change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change. – Wayne Dyer

The Effective Tool of Hurt Feelings
Acknowledging that us care is the first step in using hurt feelings as a tool.
Hurt feelings serve as a reminder to pursue our dreams and passions.
A reminder to look for other ways to pursue our dreams. (The law of substitution)
It reminds us how deeply we care.
Hurt feelings are a reminder to change our beliefs about how the world or others should treat us.

The Effective Tool of Anger
Sadness is anger directed inward, even if you do not believe you have it.
To become an observer of anger.
Anger is a massive source of energy.
It carries energy to channel and direct it towards achieving our goals and dreams.
It is a power tool to use it in the direction where we want to be
When we use this power tool for the right reasons, the energy continues to flow.

The Effective Tool of Guilt
Guilt is self-directed anger. Anger directed at ourselves.
Guilt carries energy for change; physically, mentally, and spiritual power to change.
It gives us the energy to make amends and change our behavior and beliefs.
Guilt is evidence that we do know what to do.
Guilt is a perfect opportunity for honesty. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?”
It gives us energy to be compassionate.

Do the Thing You Fear and the Death of Fear Is Certain. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Effective Tool of Unworthiness
Unworthiness is an energy that encourages us to focus on gradually expanding our comfort zone.
Unworthiness is all about giving ourselves permission to question the beliefs that keep us in our comfort zone.
Unworthiness is the voice that tells us that we are worthy of anything we want but NOT worthy of everything we want at the SAME TIME, Right NOW
It reminds us that we lack the humility to pick the ONE thing we most desire.
It serves as a reminder that our ego causes us to overfill our plates.
When you feel unworthy, ask yourself, “What would the person I intend to become do next?”
Unworthiness reminds us that we lack focus and need to refocus on our dharma.
Unworthiness reminds us that we are off track and it immediately puts us back on track to move to reaching our dharma.
It is the voice that reminds us that we are worthy of our heart’s desire, or our dharma.

The key to all five components is to be grateful for and to embrace these tools. These tools help you expand your comfort zone and become a self-directed thinker.

I am so grateful for the tools I received and the lessons I learned in week 22.

The purpose of life is to discover your gift.
The work of life is to develop it.
The meaning of life is to give your gift away.
–David Viscott

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  • O, so great to hear that my blog got you thinking about each question. You’re welcome and I appreciate your reply Deanna. 😊

  • Loved your explanation of the Tools for Expanding: anger, fear, guilt, unworthiness, and hurt feelings, Myrna. I liked how you asked so many questions at the beginning of your blog because it got me thinking about each question and reminding me what I need to focus on and actions I need to do to live the life I desire to be living. Thanks for sharing.

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